It was a Thursday morning at 6:45 am, as I was getting in my car, when I overheard a woman crying on the phone about how she’s so unhappy with everything in her life.
I got in my car and drove to work in absolute silence. I pondered what she had gone through to feel that way. What was it that was making her unhappy to the point where she was awake so early in the morning and start her day like that?
Then I thought, I was in her shoes not too long ago. I came back to America from Israel and cried myself to sleep almost every night. I fought and argued with my family, my parents especially, for advising me to come back to the States. I felt unhappiness like never before. It’s (still) taking me a while to feel content with where I stand in my life. But, what is happiness? How do you define happiness? Everybody wants it, but not everybody can achieve it. But why?
My dad kept telling me to “think realistically” and, unfortunately, at 22 thinking realistically is not something I am a pro at. Slowly but surely, I came to a few realizations.
- Your perception of life is the true determinant of your happiness
- Make decisions that benefit YOU not the people around you (like your family)
- Do things that give you an exciting adrenaline rush, be around people who motivate you, make friends with people who you can have deep conversations with
- Engage in conversation with people you would least expect yourself talking to; get a different angle of life by hearing someone else’s perception
- Learn from past experiences; if you don’t, chances are the same thing will happen again at some point in your life
- Find hobbies/activities that bring you excitment
My definition of happiness is different from everyone else’s. There are things I want in life that have more meaning to me than others. I’m still learning a lot about myself and how to manuever my way in life.
Since I got back, I started a “real-person” job where I’m, surprisingly, excelling at. I didn’t think I’d like it at first, but every day I like it more and more. Like every job, it has its slow days but most days, I get excited to go to work. I have a support system like none other and every day holds a life lesson. As much as I hated my parents for making me start adulting, I’m starting to like it. Of course, adulting is NOT easy. But I’m learning how to be a succesful adult, one step at a time.
Sometimes, ya gotta struggle a little bit in order to feel success in what you’re aiming to accomplish.
Here’s to finding what gives us pure joy in life. 🍷